Sometimes you just didn’t get to see the sunrise even if you wake up properly one hour before dawn- it’s life and also what the world is like. You can’t see the sunlight today simply because today is a cloudy and rainy day. It’s not about you, it’s them.
I got to realize how many noises are there in my life as I put meditations and reflections rituals into my daily/weekly life and started multiple entrepreneurial journeys the past few months. I put up a website sharing my progress and updates to those who’d like to explore what I do (potential business partners/clients across industries and countries), but the truth is that most of them can only see the narrow picture they’d like to see as you. Most human especially adults are dumb as hell and does not have enough bandwidth to learn and think. If their life is a mess, how can you expect them to properly respond? Your tailored message to them are probably just a waste of time and the problem is not you, it’s them.
The reality can be pretty disappointing if 90% human around you is like that – but the truth is – the better you get and more improvements you put on yourself- the less likely you can find someone at your channel and have a proper conversation with. And that was the most important reason that I really want to set up a place like ASIA Members Club and encourage progress instead of entropy. The work is under progress.
The source of pain in life, are mostly caused by others- the presumption is taht you can fully manage yourself. (this capabilities probably are the biggest differences among people.) Managing yourself meaning say no to those traps setup to seduce you to become lazy, driven purely by lust instead of reasoning, indulgence in bad habits that destroying your mental and physical health, greedy and you don’t realize it… the flaws of human are as many as the tributes – the yingyang is always there and the benchmark is within yourself.
Assumed you set high standards on yourself and you start feeling in control of your life – the universe won’t let this happen for long – you’re surrounded by noises, collapses, ugly truth of the worlds just as the beauty, rise and virtue of god and human – the world is out there, and you can only control the things you can control.
Anything that is beyond your control – say less than 80% influenced by you – you shouldn’t have any expectations on it. Do the work in your good faith still, but celebrate its early failure as its saving your time and accept its negative outcomes if you’re not the core contributor to it. No expectation is not only a mental measure to protect your feelings, but also a gesture to protect the results. The eager you wanted it , the farther it goes away from you. The world is designed like this. That’s also why billionaire founders like Zuck or Colin Huang- still has control over its gigantic ships regardless how big the ships has become and how little shares they actually has with the company.
Advice to all those wandering in the wilderness and starting their own businesses:
1) Always prioritize managing yourself.
2) Identify noises, Ignore them, and only have expectations on the things you control 80% or more.
3) For those outside of your control (results >20% influenced by others), do not set any expectation and accept all scenarios and know things could go wrong- and make sure you’re still thriving and not affected at all, as you have built a thick wall and a deep moat to accept the constant turbulence.
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