I turned 30 several months ago, and to my surprise it feels so relaxed and fulfilling to start your 30s in this revolutionary decade – the age pressure is purely reinforced by the mass others – the 30s no matter for man or woman should be as prime as your 20s.
My adulthood starts really late that I clearly know it’s only around 2014 that I finally grasp the meaning of independence & life – sort of finally having the wake-up moments as a human being with strong wills and real critical thinking starting to emerge. All of these are triggered by a family tragedy around that time and the hardships & obstacles I faced since then shapes me as a personality of who I am now.
A few advice if standing at this timeline to give to my younger self in 2014:
On Courage:
I’m so grateful now looking back – that you did make that 6 months round-European solo-trip happened- that you stepped out of your comfort zones for the first time in many sense- it’s one of the best movies scripts you made into your life- the memories you created, the adventures you had and the people you forged friendships with- some of them still exists in your life after 10 years and still cared about you like your family member.
On Family:
I knew this was always the hardest lessons you learned and the biggest puzzles you wanted to solve during all these years- at first you just wanted to escape, but I’m glad you’re on your way to face it and solve it since 2020s- no matter what they did – they still love you in their own ways. Family is family.
On Love:
Relaxed. No need to rush into any relationships- there are plenty of fish in the pool and nowadays AI and robotic fish are emerging as well haha… You will know the different levels of love through experiences, and this topic will gradually lose its charm when you start to find and love yourself in your late 20s.
On Kids:
Happy that you did not enter motherhood yet – it’s the hardest and least ROI work the world expected woman to have for thousand of years. It’s not even work, it’s philanthropy and doing good purely for another human beings. But things started to change now- we faced an age of lost meaning of humanity worldwide- kids naturally-born will live in a world of kids manly-made, kids powered by AGI and robotics kids post 2030s.. You can far relaxed to put this topic in your 50s if you really want one or a group of kids – no pressure at all. Your world is beyond that.
On Work:
Your choices were made right. You’re still passionate of the work you wanted as a venture capitalist/investors/advisors- lawyers are really to be totally replaced by AI in 2024-25. The investment worlds is definitely revolutionized and fintech worlds has made huge progress since 2015/17- you’re on your way to create something interesting as well. And you hear me right – it’s possible to do it all by yourself.
You will explore other interesting topics like social network/AI as you know yourself better – you can play this long time. But you will have focus and better judgements on people you work with, good lessons learned during your ups-and-downs in work as well. These difficulties and challenges seem so unimportant looking back- even if you felt that was the end of the world back then. You will separate emotions, other people’ manipulations from the true fact & truths you find yourself – and you will trust physics and science more.
You will become a happy workaholic.
On Dreams:
You still have dreams in your 30s. Good for you. But you will realize dreams will remain a dream if no actions are putting daily to actualize it. Your music and arts are a leftover topic for long but you will have the bandwidth and tools to pick them up now 10 years later, with the help of technology evolvements.
You will encounter lots of people who are less idealistic and more realistic – that doesn’t mean they are wrong- they are just thinking and viewing the world differently. Listen to your mum- she’s right about being more modest and low-key. You will enjoy your quiet time and cherish the joy of success more if lowering your expectations.
On Money:
Yes, this will be a central topic starting from 2014. I know you had no interests and no talents on this before turning 20- but you will become a money expert thru days of practice, independent thinking and self-mastering your own way.
Money can’t be chased. It is indeed a side-product just as your professor says in college. Technically, money is just like the score-board on your brawler’s game- the more you play and enjoy, overtime the figure will grow as long as you don’t lose them for stupid reasons.
Money buys your freedom and your natural un-attachment with money will protect you from abusing it. Money can be the start of your friendship with your business partners- can also serve as a collapsing trigger of your trusts on your bad choice of business partners. Money grows when your inner backbones grows.
On Social:
2014 is the starting point of your social expansions. Solitude is worshipped in the early morning but not later-in-the-day. Your interactions and good choices/relationships with the people around you, can shape and empower you to go even farther- farther than you ever imagine.
Social network is still far less efficient and the trust among people still has many rooms to improve – and this will resonate with you more and more as your grow.
On Where to live:
Happy that you’ve experienced many places in your 20s – but 10 years later you will realize your roots and options to live anywhere when you have roots. And the important is still not “where”, it’s whom you wanted to be surrounded with.
When you’re questioning your surroundings, you’re actually questioning your internal world. Try meditation regularly and more, you will find this questions less relevant when you have peace of mind.
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