The past few days I had some of the most satisfying and relaxing days along with mum for the first time… a vibe that I wanted to see on her for so long, and she’s finally wearing it. It’s my first time seeing her truly enjoy her retirement, slowing down a bit and giving full trust to herself opening a brand new chapter of her life, as well as her children’s lives.
We lived in a twilight world. And there’s no better way to live than being really present.
I always think people in China in their 50s, 60s, all the way till 80s have actually lived and experienced 300+ years of dramatic changes & developments – from starving-to-death to seeing gold water slipping through their fingers, from stalinism, social capitalism to tech-enabled national socialism- mum and dad as well their mums & dads ultimately are all dusts in the universe- like everyone and everything we see and feel right now, including ourselves.
Retiring for mum means freedom to finally pursue her hobbies and passions- laughing without any mental or social burdens, dancing without worrying dinner cooking for her kids, dating with the pure intentions for nice company to co-create best memories, and trusting her kids will take good care of themselves no matter what will happen. Also, retiring means me and my mum, we finally learn to like each other’s presence.
Women in my generations can have retirement so much earlier than our mothers- thanks to our decision to be independent and the improving environments for women to work solo or in partnership. If economically and mentally ready – anyone can retire at any age. And can come back to work if getting bored with their retirement plans.
If you can choose when and how to work- you can assign at least 3-5 hours for mini-retiring every day if willing to spare time to yourself and forming “retiring habits”. I love the mini-retiring hours I gave it to myself by rising up earlier than dawn- to write, to do sports & music for pure enjoyment, and to pursue goals that I truly wanted to have an impact on. Retiring is a state of mind- doing startups with people you truly admire and trust, having dinners with friends shared your childhood and teenage memories, completing deals and investing or stop investing in different market rhythms, researching markets and learning to break barriers by talking daily with AI teachers- these are all retirement moments for me.
Things will always go against your plans or detailed steps, but we only need to envision the end image and result. The long-term goals never failed me once and that’s more than enough..
My goal is to retain the fun in work more than making billions while sacrificing health, friendships, time for myself daily, true love and freedom to say no – and at the end of the world – we are all gonna die. To live longer doesn’t mean you can live forever, and death is also another form of existence, but we might as well live while we are living and die quickly without pain saying we had a great life.

